Just a couple of days back, cricketers Virat Kohli and Shikhar Dhawan shared a heart touching video in which a little girl was mercilessly beaten by her teacher inspite of her pleading continuously and even requesting her, “pyaar se padhao.” The video instantly got viral on social media, with people calling for strict action against such teachers.
In the video, the little girl can be seen crying and pleading for mercy, but the teacher keeps on beating her, instilling fear in her. Shocked by the insensitivity the teacher showed, Virat shared the video with the caption,
“The fact that the pain and anger of the child is ignored and ones own to make the child learn is so massive that compassion has totally gone out of the window. This is shocking and saddening to another dimension. A child can never learn if intimidated. This is hurtful.“
Cricketers Yuvraj Singh and Shikhar Dhawan also slammed the video on Instagram and called for patience on part of parents.
However, a different side of the story has been revealed now. The 3 year old girl in the video is Haya, niece of Bollywood singers Toshi and Sharib Sabri. When contacted by Hindustan Times, Toshi said that the video was made for their family’s WhatsApp group and no body has the right to judje their mom on the basis of that clip. He said,
“Virat Kohli and Shikhar Dhawan don’t know about us. Hamare bachche ke bare mein humein pata hai naah ki hamara bacha kaisa hai! Uska nature hai waisa… Agle hi pal woh khelne chali jaati hai. Agar aap usko chod do toh woh kahengi main mazzak kar rahi thi. Uske nature ki wajah se chod denge toh woh padai bhi nahi kar paayengi. (We know about our child better. Haya’s nature is such that after being scolded, the next minute she runs off to play. But, because of her nature if we don’t push her, she won’t study.)”
He was also surprised that how his family video went viral. “Woh video ek maa ka video hai, apne bhai aur husband ko dikhaane ke liye banaya tha, ki bachchi bahut ziddi ho gayi hai. (The video was made by the child’s mother, who wanted to show her brother and husband that how stubborn the girl has become).
Toshi also stressed on the importance of learning and said that sometimes it’s fine to ignore the tantrums of the child, when it comes to educating them. He said,
“Woh jo rona hota hain, woh us moment ke liye tha taaki uski maa use padaaye na aur khelne de. Chota bachcha hai 2.5-3 saal ka. (All the crying was for that moment so that her mother doesn’t make her study and let her play. Haya is just about 3 years old). It’s not a big issue. Har ghar mein bachon ki alag zidd hoti hai, alag-alag tareeke ke bachche hote hain. [Ye] bachchi bahut zyada ziddi hai [lekin] humari laadli hai. (In every house there are different kind of children. Ours is a very stubborn child but is extremely dear to us).”
Toshi also said that nobody should form judgments based on a 1.5 mins clip. “Ek maa ki mamta hai, judgment nahi kar sakte hain. Jisne usko 9 months kokh mein rakha hai. Ab agar bachche zidd karenge toh unko padana likhana chod dein kya? Bachon ko paalna asaan nahi hota. (One can’t judge a mother’s love for the child by seeing a short video. If children throw tantrums, then should we stop teaching them? It’s not easy to raise children). I’m married and have a son. I know how difficult it is to raise a child. Parents have to do double duty by managing both — the children and the household at the same time.”